Getting Others to Support Your Dream

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“These days we’re experts at ‘hot-syncing’ — getting different pieces of technology, like BlackBerrys and PCs, to talk to each other. Few of us, however, are experts when it comes to hot-syncing with other people.” —Mark Goulston, MD, author of Just Listen: Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone

Hot-syncing: How to Get Through to Anyone

by guest blogger Jeffrey Cohen;  Jeff is an Executive Coach in New York City


Have you noticed that some people have a knack for getting through to people, convincing them to buy into their plans, goals and desires? It may seem like magic, but it really isn’t.


Mirror Neurons

When the brain’s “mirror neurons” fire, we have the ability to be transported into another person’s mind, briefly making us feel what the other person is experiencing. These cells are nature’s way of teaching us to care about other people.


Neurologist V.S. Ramachandran, director of the Center for Human Information Processing at the University of California, San Diego, calls them “empathy neurons” or “Dalai Lama neurons,” as they dissolve the barriers between self and others. So, what’s the secret to activating the “mirror neurons” when you’re talking to someone?


Rewire Yourself to Listen

Many of us don’t listen well, especially with the people we deal with each day. We think we already know what they’re going to say. We interrupt. We try to top their story with a better (or worse) one of our own. We talk around, over and up against people, with little actual listening to them.

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The Power of More than One

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"Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has."
—Margaret Mead

What do Jack Canfield and Dorothy Parker have in Common?


What do Jack Canfield, Will.i.am (Black-eyed Peas), Dorothy Parker, and Kellie Frazier have in common? All of them participate (or did, in the case of Dorothy) in Mastermind groups. You’ve probably read Napoleon Hill”s definition of a mastermind alliance in his classic, “The Law of Success”, as “two or more minds working actively together in perfect harmony toward a common definite object.” Just like these very successful people, each and every one of us needs other people to achieve our dreams, no matter how inspiring, directed, persistent, talented, and motivated we are.


One of the key pieces of Structure that you’re missing when you’re the COE (Chief Of Everything) of your own home-based operation, is the social piece. When you have a job, you have other people around you who are expecting things from you. Working from home, alone, in start-up mode, who do you talk to who believes in you …who helps you overcome challenges…who brainstorms and discusses pros and cons of Choice A versus Choice B with you?

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Getting from Today… to the Life You Want


STRUCTURE and routine provide the framework for creating the life you want. The trick is in the balance, because, just like anything else, you can have too much of a good thing. Too much routine may mean you’re “stuck in a rut”. Not enough means you may be sleeping a lot and doing whatever you feel like doing whenever you feel like it….but you’re not getting anywhere. It’s hard to get the balance right without a regular connection with a trusted team of supporters.


From Being Laid Off to Empty Void

When you’re laid off, you’ve been tossed out of your routine. All structure is gone. There was an order and predictability to your life that suddenly disappeared, replaced by a sudden vast emptiness, one day after another. Sound familiar? Sure, when I was laid off I was in a state of euphoria at first, loving the freedom from the tyranny of alarm clocks and commuting, and the chance to sleep in and unwind. That got old quickly. I realized that even though I didn’t know where I was going or what I was doing next, I needed some structure and goals. So I hired a coach and who guided me through the self-discovery and exploration process. We worked together for a year. Now I have a Vision and a Plan and a Purpose. I work from a home office, and I can set my own hours. I love it!

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Breakthrough Life Crises with Tony Robbins – and HuffPost

Good news for any of you who are struggling to make ends meet and reinvent your career and income – Tony Robbins and Ariana Huffington have teamed up to launch “Breakthrough: The Power of Crisis” today.

Sorry to bring this news to you right after the live video launch event with Tony. This was the day I made the commitment to get my own blog post written, and a couple of other critical actions, before opening my email and getting sucked into whatever distractions I knew I’d find there. I was successful. I did get the blog post written, and I’ll post it later.

But in the meantime, my mailbox was filling up with messages about Tony and Ariana teaming up. My 80-something year old friend Ed wrote me and urged me to post an announcement on my blog to spread the word. We’ve been talking a lot about the many people who need inspiration, strategies, resources, and support teams to invent new approaches to earning a living – not so much because they want to, but because they need to.

I’m excited about their team effort, and also about Tony’s new NBC TV show starting tomorrow “Breakthrough with Tony Robbins,” and Ariana’s new book – coming out soon – called “Third World America”. Both of them separately are in our court, and positioned to make a difference to a lot of individuals. Together…they may have an impact on you and me directly, and also on public policy, public opinion, and the economy.

One of the other messages in my mailbox was from Jeff Walker, someone I don’t know personally, but who is well known and highly respected as a an Internet and Product Launch Marketing guru. I loved his blog post below…about how 15 years ago he suspended disbelief and ordered a product from Tony Robbins…I hope you’ll read it.

via Tony Robbins: mentoring a mentor….

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Passionate Life Secrets


UPDATE: Janet and Chris Attwood (authors of the best selling book, “The Passion Test“, on June 15th hosted a live 9 hour marathon online streaming video event on UStream, with a terrific line-up of speakers, for anyone ready to begin the journey toward Earning a Living Doing What You are Passionate About


I watched a bit of the event. While the speakers were excellent, I didn’t see the point of the video; it was hard to watch one person nodding for hours.


Despite that, Chris and Janet have helped many people through their work. Take a look at their website and see what you think. Enjoy! —Louise

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Power of Attention

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"HOW you pay attention matters"

Dr Les Fehmi, Open Focus Brain, Part 2


Last week I wrote about Dr. Les and Susan Fehmi, and their work. The post included a short video to introduce them, and in it they talk about the benefits of Open Focus attention for reducing anxiety, optimizing your performance and your health and well-being. I’m interested in their work, because when I’m in midst of change – whether I’m making it happen, or it’s happening to me – I deal with anxiety, and at the same time I want to be at the top of my game. And there’s some tug-of-war between the two. Is that true for you?


Today I have a couple of updates for you. First, At the bottom of this post are two very short audio clips, where the Fehmi’s talk about HOW you pay attention, and about their work with children. Second, the web interview on “Harnessing the Power of Attention with Open Focus”, and Q & A session with Dr. Les Fehmi and his partner Susan Fehmi, has been re-scheduled for Friday, June 12th. Click here for more info.


And finally, I know it’s last minute, but there are still places available in the Fehmi’s Open Focus Workshop in Princeton, on Monday, May 17th. It’s an opportunity to work directly with the Fehmi’s. To learn more, watch the video below, and go to http://www.openfocus.com/WORKSHOP.html.




The Fehmi interviews:

The two audio clips below are each about 2 minutes long.


Dr. Les Fehmi talks about HOW you pay attention:

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Susan Fehmi talks about Children and Open Focus Attention:

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If you have experience with Open Focus brain exercises, or with other ways to overcome anxiety and get unstuck, tell us about them. What works? What doesn’t? Thanks!



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Harness the Power of Attention

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"Love is a way of paying attention." Dr. Les Fehmi

How to Reduce Anxiety, Get Unstuck, and Lead a Fuller, More Productive Life


What if you could reduce anxiety, get unstuck, reduce pain, optimize mental and physical performance and promote a sense of well being – simply by learning how to move between four (4) modes of paying attention?


A couple of years ago, I was laid off. In the throes of anxiety and panic, I stumbled on exactly the right book at the right moment. Written by Dr. Les Fehmi and science writer Jim Robbins, “The Open Focus Brain: Harnessing the Power of Attention to Heal Mind and Body”, the book includes a CD with simple attention-training exercises. And they worked – my knotted back muscles relaxed, my thoughts stopped spinning unproductively, and I could move forward.


Meet the Fehmi’s

The world works in mysterious ways. Several weeks ago I found myself heading to Princeton, New Jersey to interview Dr. Fehmi and his wife and partner, Susan Shor Fehmi. I had the privilege of spending the afternoon in their company and hearing about their fascinating work – with adults and with children – on attention, open focus and neurofeedback. The short video clip below is from the interview.



By the way, there are still places available in the Fehmi’s Brain Synchrony/Open Focus Workshop in Princeton, from May 15-17th. It’s an opportunity to work directly with the Fehmi’s. Go to http://www.openfocus.com, or http://www.openfocus.com/WORKSHOP.html to find out more. Who can attend? Life coaches, therapists (for adults and children), body workers, health professionals, musicians, neurofeedback professionals, and individuals interested in personal growth or seeking to alleviate anxiety and pain.


If you watch the complete intervew with Dr. and Susan Fehmi, you’ll hear them talk about their work with children who have ADD and other attention disorders, some of whom have been able to reduce their dependence on medication as a result. On a recent episode of 60 Minutes, Katie Couric interviewed college students about their use of Adderal to improve their focus; I wonder if they could accomplish the same thing using Open Focus instead of drugs?
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2010/04/22/60minutes/main6422159.shtml


I’d be remiss if I didn’t mention my companions on the recent expedition to Princeton. they were Kurt Vega (the official interviewer), a certified Open Focus facilitator, a musician, and a social media expert for small business and corporate clients, and Terence Taylor (the official videographer), an award-winning children’s television writer, and author of two (so far) vampire novels. You can find out more about Kurt at http://www.linkedin.com/in/kurtvega, and about Terence at http://www.terencetaylor.com. All three of us have left our corporate careers behind, and are having a great time exploring new interests and a flexible workstyle. We ended up embarking on this project together because we took some risks, met some new people, and “just said yes” to an unexpected opportunity.


I know I’m singing to the choir, but I’ll sing it anyway – reinventing what you do for work and income involves some soul searching and a lot of stepping out of the zone of comfort into the unknown. Anxiety is an all too common companion, just at a time when you want to be performing at your best. Learning Open Focus and “attentional flexibility” will help you self-correct and manage stress so you can thrive and be happy.



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Interview with Entrepreneur Gary Whitehill

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How can you do what Gary did, and catapult your vision into reality?

Lessons in Being Unstoppable


Lessons in Being Unstoppable

Gary Whitehill believes that entrepreneurs change the world – and he backed up his belief by founding New York Entrepreneur Week. To learn how to be unstoppable in turning your vision into reality, listen to Gary tell his story – how he arrived in NYC 3 years ago with no job, no plan, and almost no money, and the specific action steps he took to move from that point to becoming CEO of a non-profit that has already reached more than 120,000 aspiring entrepreneurs around the world.


Interview with Gary Whitehill

Download the mp3 podcast directly from itunes by clicking here.

Click hereto get an outline of topics for Gary’s podcast interview, including the times (minutes/seconds), so you can easily move right to the topic you’re interested in.



This week, at Gary’s invitation, more than 100 speakers from three continents, including CEO’s, venture capitalists, angel investors and branding consultants were in NYC to teach, to advise, and to mentor aspiring entrepreneurs and to provide insight into growing a business from concept to profitability, and all presentations have been offered live, online, via UStream.


Learn about his plans to grow Entrepreneur Week into cities across the USA and around the world. Not only is it inspiring to listen to Gary, but he delivers practical advice, tips and ideas you can adopt to catapult your vision into reality.



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Beyond the Business Card: Three Alternative Tools

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I wish I’d had these “kill the rolodex” tools last weekend when I was meeting people at a conference – I have a bag full of paper business cards to process and respond to. The good news is, I’ll be ready for the next event, however big or small. I just installed BUMP on my iPhone, and I am ready for the upcoming New York Entrepreneur Week conference.


People at this conference were running around with Flip video cameras (and other similar), whipping them out for instant interviews. I did have mine with me, but wasn’t comfortable pulling it out and aiming the lens at people I just met. And to tell the truth, I was equally uncomfortable with the reverse …a couple of people I barely knew wanted to video me making statements for their web sites.


What will work better for me, I think, is recording our conversation using the iPhone’s audio apps, such as Voice Memos or Voice Record. (If you have a better app to suggest, I’d love to hear about it.) I had one fantastic conversation/interview that I wish I’d recorded every second of; at the time, when I suggested video recording, he froze. Not that I blame him. And I didn’t think of the audio record possibility until later. Audio recording is far less intrusive and more likely to capture a normal conversations for the many among us who aren’t natural hams.


What about you? How comfortable are you speaking with someone who places a video camera in your face, versus an audio recorder and perhaps a microphone?


Are You of My Tribe? Friend or Foe-Two Seconds to Make a First Impression

Speaking of networking and conferences, did you know you have only 2 SECONDS to make a good first impression? Check out Olivia Fox Cabane‘s outstanding, high value talk from the Fall 2009 New York Entrepreneur Week. Who is Olivia? “An expert in the fields of charisma, trust, influence and persuasion.” Her focus is on behavioral science. I’ll be reviewing this before my next event (I’m uncomfortable in large groups), and “how to project warmth and affection” rather than the extreme stress that someone told me I was projecting at last weekend’s conference. Watch – I guarantee you’ll love it. And you’ll learn!


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We’re Back!


A variety of forces converged – capped by a case of the flu – to keep my blog dormant for a month.  This is a quick heads up to let you know we’re back in action, with a new blog entry posting tonight.


Donate to HAITI earthquake relief


You can easily donate to the Haitian Earthquake Relief efforts. Huffington Post lists a variety of agencies that are heading to the ravaged country with emergency water and food supplies, medical personnel and supplies, and longer term rebuilding and relief funds. Here are two easy ways to donate, followed by a link to the Huffington Post page that provides a growing list of agencies, their mission, and how to donate:

  • Text ‘HAITI’ to 90999 to donate $10 to the Red Cross.
  • Text “Yele” to 501501 and $5 will be charged to your phone bill. This is Wyclef Jean’s foundation, Yele Haiti.


Comprehensive List of Agencies you can Donate to:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/01/12/haiti-earthquake-relief-h_n_421014.html

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